Spotafriend: Am I LGBT? Facts Teens should know
Spotafriend will help you answer the question: Am I LGBT? Being a teen is tough but going through puberty is even harder. As your feelings and emotions develop, it’s common to question who you are and any sexual feelings you might have.
What Is Sexual Orientation?
Your sexual orientation is about more than just what attracts you sexually. It’s also about feelings and emotions. Here are some of the most common sexual orientations:
Heterosexual – having sexual feelings about members of the opposite sex.
Homosexual – having sexual feelings about members of the same sex (Gay or Lesbian).
Bisexual – having sexual feelings about members of both sexes.
Pansexual – feeling attracted to people, regardless of their sexual identity or gender.
Asexual – not having any sexual feelings about anyone of any gender or orientation.
What About Transgender?
Transgender is more about gender identity rather than sexual orientation. Sometimes people feel as if they were born with the wrong body. It’s all about the gender someone feels on the inside, regardless of what organs they were born with.
What Is Normal Sexual Orientation?
There is no normal sexual orientation. None of them are any better than the others, and it all boils down to you and your feelings.
Do I Have to Identify as a Label?
No, you don’t have to identify as anything. Many teens feel that they’re not 100% percent anything and that’s okay. Your sexual identity and orientation is something that develops over time.
Am I Abnormal?
There is absolutely nothing abnormal about loving who you love. Remember, you can’t help who you fall in love with, and you shouldn’t pretend to be anything you’re not just to please other people. You are who you are. The sooner you accept it, the sooner other people will too.
Can I Choose My Sexual Orientation?
No. It’s all a part of who you are, who you’re attracted to, and who you love. You don’t get to decide what attracts you, nature does.
Can I Change My Sexual Orientation?
No, you can’t change either your sexual identity or your sexual orientation. A gay person might try to live a heterosexual lifestyle, but they can’t change their true feelings. Don’t try to be something you’re not. You’ll always feel incomplete and like an impostor until you accept yourself for who you are.
What About My Friends and Family?
You shouldn’t need to pretend to be something you’re not to please anyone else. If people love you, they won’t care what your sexual orientation or identity is. No matter what you’re dealing with in life, the words of Dr. Seuss still hold true, “Those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.“
How Do I Know if I’m Gay or Bisexual?
A lot of teens question their sexuality during puberty, but it’s important to remember that your sexuality evolves over time and your sexual orientation develops as you grow. It’s perfectly normal to have fantasies about both people of the same sex and people of the opposite sex. Having those feelings doesn’t make you gay or bisexual and just being interested in someone of any sex doesn’t earn you a label.
What If I’ve Experimented With Someone of the Same Sex?
Experimenting doesn’t make you gay or bisexual either. It just makes you normal. There are a lot of intense sexual feelings to sort through when you’re a teen. It’s perfectly normal to question who you are and any sexual feelings you might have, but who you have sex with doesn’t determine your sexual orientation. Your sexual orientation is more about your feelings and what attracts you, and how those feelings develop over time.
How Do I Know If My Friend Is Gay or Bisexual?
You don’t. Anyone can be bisexual or gay regardless of their race, age, or family background. You can’t tell just by looking at someone. Some guys have feminine traits and some girls have masculine traits, but that doesn’t mean they’re not heterosexual.
What If I Think My Friend Is Gay?
Don’t rush to judgment or force a label on anyone. You should never assume that you know someone else’s sexual orientation until they’ve told you themselves. Instead, take the time to be there for your friends, so they’ll feel comfortable coming to you with any feelings they might be dealing with.
What Should I Do If I Think I Might Be Gay?
The first thing you should do is talk to someone you trust like a good friend, a guidance counselor, a teacher, or your parents. Their support will help you sort out your feelings, and make you feel better about the emotions you’re struggling with.
You Are Not Alone
Those are probably the four most powerful words in the English language. Whether you’re straight, gay, bisexual, or anything in between, you are not alone. No matter how lonely you feel, tons of other teens are right there with you going through the exact same thing. Whenever you feel lonely or isolated, remember, you are not alone.
The Hard Truth About Your Sexual Orientation or Identity
No matter how you identify, you’re so lucky to be a part of the first generation where it’s truly okay to identify as whatever you want. In today’s world, people are more capable of self-acceptance and social acceptance than ever before. So, spread your wings and soar, knowing that no matter who you are, it’s perfectly okay.